How completely bizarre, to me at least...
Contraceptives
Let's start this off right:
The ONLY way to be sure your sexual release will not end up with a pregnancy or STD transmission is to masturbate. Mutual masturbation does not count, especially if his bodily fluids are anywhere near her vaginal opening.
STDs that manifest themselves orally are really ugly. And I think we all know that anal isn't entirely safe either.
So, self-love is the only safe-love.
That being said:
CONDOMS people; the only way to prevent unintended pregnancy and the transmission of STDs.
I am not pimping any particular brand, but:
"I can't feel anything!"
"I can't find any that fit!" Well congratulations, big fella! But you're not looking hard enough.
"I'm allergic to latex" There are alternatives.
"I can't make him wear one" A gizmo just for her, and it's latex free. But seriously, if he isn't willing to wear one, do you really want to sleep with him?
Now, all this being said, what are the stats?
I am not going to bother with "With Perfect Use"; you are not going to have a professional on hand to help you out with your contraceptive every time you need one. "Typical Use" is realistic. These are the odds that with "typical use", the female will become pregnant within one year:
Chance 85%
Spermicide 26%
Periodic Abstinance 25%
Withdrawl 19%
Cap w/ spermicide 20-40%
Sponge 20-40%
Diaphram w/ spermicide 20%
Condom - male 14%
Condom - female 21%
The Pill 5%
IUD 2%
Depo Provera 0.3%
Norplant 0.05%
Female sterilization 0.5%
Male sterilization 0.15%
The only two that guard against STDs are the condoms. Monogamy is a beautiful thing; it relies entirely on trust. If you trust that your partner is not doing the deed with anyone else, and you already know that your partner is clean, use whatever floats your boat. However, it's not worth your life or your fertility to just shrug off any doubts you may have. Incidences of STDs are rising! As is teen pregnancy, for the first time in 14 years. Condoms people, condoms!
What's that bump? Why does it burn when I pee?
A few other items of note:
- Some people find spermicides irritating, as a matter of fact nonoxynol-9 may irritate the skin and increase the chances of contracting certain STDs including HIV/AIDS. It's true.
- The 2% of IUDs that fail result in tubal pregnancies that need to be terminated, or death may result.
- The problems associated with the pill: increased risk of blood clot, liver tumors, cancer of the reproductive organs, heart attack, stroke, and gallbladder disease. That being said, if you use your pills to skip all but four of your periods (evenly spaced) throughout the year, you may reduce your risk of breast cancer. Menstruation has been linked to some forms of breast cancer.
A woman is more likely to die in childbirth than from any of the contraceptives I've listed, unless she is a smoker over age 35 taking the pill.
At the age of 30 your chances of dying in childbirth are 15 times more than your chances of your IUD killing you.
Female sterilization is surgery, real-life abdominal surgery.
Male sterilization can be done out-patient in a doctor's office.
From here you are on your own gang, all I can do is provide information. Choose wisely.
I just found an interesting site with Condom Pointers.
The ONLY way to be sure your sexual release will not end up with a pregnancy or STD transmission is to masturbate. Mutual masturbation does not count, especially if his bodily fluids are anywhere near her vaginal opening.
STDs that manifest themselves orally are really ugly. And I think we all know that anal isn't entirely safe either.
So, self-love is the only safe-love.
That being said:
CONDOMS people; the only way to prevent unintended pregnancy and the transmission of STDs.
I am not pimping any particular brand, but:
"I can't feel anything!"
"I can't find any that fit!" Well congratulations, big fella! But you're not looking hard enough.
"I'm allergic to latex" There are alternatives.
"I can't make him wear one" A gizmo just for her, and it's latex free. But seriously, if he isn't willing to wear one, do you really want to sleep with him?
Now, all this being said, what are the stats?
I am not going to bother with "With Perfect Use"; you are not going to have a professional on hand to help you out with your contraceptive every time you need one. "Typical Use" is realistic. These are the odds that with "typical use", the female will become pregnant within one year:
Chance 85%
Spermicide 26%
Periodic Abstinance 25%
Withdrawl 19%
Cap w/ spermicide 20-40%
Sponge 20-40%
Diaphram w/ spermicide 20%
Condom - male 14%
Condom - female 21%
The Pill 5%
IUD 2%
Depo Provera 0.3%
Norplant 0.05%
Female sterilization 0.5%
Male sterilization 0.15%
The only two that guard against STDs are the condoms. Monogamy is a beautiful thing; it relies entirely on trust. If you trust that your partner is not doing the deed with anyone else, and you already know that your partner is clean, use whatever floats your boat. However, it's not worth your life or your fertility to just shrug off any doubts you may have. Incidences of STDs are rising! As is teen pregnancy, for the first time in 14 years. Condoms people, condoms!
What's that bump? Why does it burn when I pee?
A few other items of note:
- Some people find spermicides irritating, as a matter of fact nonoxynol-9 may irritate the skin and increase the chances of contracting certain STDs including HIV/AIDS. It's true.
- The 2% of IUDs that fail result in tubal pregnancies that need to be terminated, or death may result.
- The problems associated with the pill: increased risk of blood clot, liver tumors, cancer of the reproductive organs, heart attack, stroke, and gallbladder disease. That being said, if you use your pills to skip all but four of your periods (evenly spaced) throughout the year, you may reduce your risk of breast cancer. Menstruation has been linked to some forms of breast cancer.
A woman is more likely to die in childbirth than from any of the contraceptives I've listed, unless she is a smoker over age 35 taking the pill.
At the age of 30 your chances of dying in childbirth are 15 times more than your chances of your IUD killing you.
Female sterilization is surgery, real-life abdominal surgery.
Male sterilization can be done out-patient in a doctor's office.
From here you are on your own gang, all I can do is provide information. Choose wisely.
I just found an interesting site with Condom Pointers.
New Olympic Sport
I'm not one much for the Olympics. Did not see minute one of this past one in China, but I have deep respect for the athletes who compete. Even in the stupid sports.
But this - this is truly beautiful. She's a little muscle-bound for most men to consider her hot, but damn! She got skills...
... well maybe not, the Eastern Europeans would kill us.
But this - this is truly beautiful. She's a little muscle-bound for most men to consider her hot, but damn! She got skills...
... well maybe not, the Eastern Europeans would kill us.
Find of the Day
Every now and again I come across something that I feel I should share.
Here is a blog from a man who shares the same interest is blogs as I do:
http://www.punarama.co.uk/?p=75
Click the link to the BBC - he's right: it's funny and sad.
So.... What would you do? What have you done? What have others done to let you know that you are violating the noise ordinance?
Here is a blog from a man who shares the same interest is blogs as I do:
http://www.punarama.co.uk/?p=75
Click the link to the BBC - he's right: it's funny and sad.
So.... What would you do? What have you done? What have others done to let you know that you are violating the noise ordinance?
A Few Words on Virgins
I'm not sure what the big deal is about virgins. We all were at some point, and let's face it: your first time was probably just as awkward and clumsy as mine. I was smart enough to do it with a fellow virgin, thereby reducing the embarrassment of screwing up. At least he had no idea what he was doing either.
Since my first virgin, I did tread into those waters a few more times. I had a blind optimism that virgins are easier to train. And I suppose they are, but they only know what feels good for the two of you. There is no, "Wow, what was that?" in their repertoire. It's all guess work. A lot can be gleaned from serious make-out sessions, but god-forbid they be fluent in modern American porn...
Virgins are, for most sexually experienced people, sacred territory. Sex is powerful. It is as close to another human being as you can be without giving birth to them. People tend (not always, but often enough) to become terribly attached to the person they lost their virginity. Either that or they become terribly attached to the act itself. I have been witness to some very sweet girls going the slut route after they lost their cherries.
On the whole, my philosophy on virgins is that they practice on each other. Why anyone, Muslim or otherwise, would want 72 virgins is beyond me. Totally inept in their own bodies, no idea how to please themselves, let alone another person, and terrified of making a wrong move.
Please, someone, tell me I am wrong and narrow-minded. Tell me that you have had amazing sex with someone who'd never done IT before. I haven't. I have had sweet, gentle, timid, loving sex with virgins. They are always willing learners, but after that first time, they are no longer virgins.
Besides, they always make me feel like a criminal - even when they do give it up freely.
Since my first virgin, I did tread into those waters a few more times. I had a blind optimism that virgins are easier to train. And I suppose they are, but they only know what feels good for the two of you. There is no, "Wow, what was that?" in their repertoire. It's all guess work. A lot can be gleaned from serious make-out sessions, but god-forbid they be fluent in modern American porn...
Virgins are, for most sexually experienced people, sacred territory. Sex is powerful. It is as close to another human being as you can be without giving birth to them. People tend (not always, but often enough) to become terribly attached to the person they lost their virginity. Either that or they become terribly attached to the act itself. I have been witness to some very sweet girls going the slut route after they lost their cherries.
On the whole, my philosophy on virgins is that they practice on each other. Why anyone, Muslim or otherwise, would want 72 virgins is beyond me. Totally inept in their own bodies, no idea how to please themselves, let alone another person, and terrified of making a wrong move.
Please, someone, tell me I am wrong and narrow-minded. Tell me that you have had amazing sex with someone who'd never done IT before. I haven't. I have had sweet, gentle, timid, loving sex with virgins. They are always willing learners, but after that first time, they are no longer virgins.
Besides, they always make me feel like a criminal - even when they do give it up freely.
A brief note on sexuality
I mentioned in a previous post that I am bi.
Well, I found a lovely little Klein Scale Test so you can try it out yourself.
Kinsey just created the scale, he never designed a test. Klein created the test, and made it multi-dimensional. It gauges your past, present, and ideal on scales of 1 through 7.
Just for the record, I scored a 3.4: "You are bisexual with heterosexual tendencies."
Still aiming for a perfect 4.0...
Well, I found a lovely little Klein Scale Test so you can try it out yourself.
Kinsey just created the scale, he never designed a test. Klein created the test, and made it multi-dimensional. It gauges your past, present, and ideal on scales of 1 through 7.
Just for the record, I scored a 3.4: "You are bisexual with heterosexual tendencies."
Still aiming for a perfect 4.0...
The SA Test
I would like to comment on the result of my Sexual Addiction test.
A few of my friends have let me know their scores. Needless to say, I have a problem. My own partner scored a 3.
I think about sex all the time. I want sex when I'm not having it. I think about it while I am having it. I think about how to help other people have fabulous sex, like I'm having. I would like very much to own my own adult toy store some day. And I write this blog... Yeah, I think I'm obsessed.
A few of my friends have let me know their scores. Needless to say, I have a problem. My own partner scored a 3.
I think about sex all the time. I want sex when I'm not having it. I think about it while I am having it. I think about how to help other people have fabulous sex, like I'm having. I would like very much to own my own adult toy store some day. And I write this blog... Yeah, I think I'm obsessed.
Who I am and where I get off (haha)
Unabashedly me - not terribly detailed, but if you like a little mystique, just trust that I speak from experience and go no further. If you know me long enough, this stuff is not going to surprise you; but it is a bit much for one sitting. Not for the squeamish.
I am a sub.
I like being naked, preferably in the company of another naked person. There are nude photos of me out in the universe; if you know where they are I'd love to see them.
I am bi. I have had 26 male partners and 5 female partners. I no longer date women because they are crazy, but I still love looking.
I have been raped twice - once by an acquaintance and once by an ex-boyfriend. I was also felt up by a relatives second husband once (the creepiest experience of the three).
I have been accused of "serial monogamy, but lousy at it".
I am currently using an IUD for birth control, but have used The Pill and condoms.
I love reading smut and looking at "dirty" pictures. I'm reading the Marquis de Sade's 120 Days of Sodom right now and will have to reread The Story of O after having just seen the worst rendition of it imaginable. Watching porn is great fun, but listening to it while blindfolded is rapture. I prefer hentai over the real stuff, but I guess I have a thing for tentacles and squealing women.
I love corsets and my collar; I would wear them all the time, but what would my daughters playgroup say? I prefer my flogger to my cane.
I have been told I give great head and one woman claimed that I gave her her first orgasm with my tongue.
I am multi-orgasmic. My first was self-induced, as most are; but my first with a partner was also my first foray into anal. I have been a huge fan ever since.
Toys are fun. I seem to collect them.
I prefer uncut penises (I seem to be in the minority on that count).
I am bald down there. I will not shave as it is too high maintenance and I have a life. I have been considering waxing, but I use Magic Shave right now.
I had a vertical clitoral hood piercing, but found it too cumbersome (not something you want rubbing on your jeans). I may do it again at some point, but not in the foreseeable future.
I fantasize about watching gay men and eventually growing a penis for the sheer novelty of the thing. I really want to know what it's like from a first hand perspective. I think it would make me a much more skilled lover if I knew really knew what I was doing.
I could probably have vanilla sex for the rest of my life - but what fun would that be?
Post Scripts:
We have compared your answers with people who have been diagnosed with sex addiction. Your answers HAVE MET a score on basis of six the criteria that indicate sex addiction is present. To help you understand, the graphic below plots your score in relation to the scores of others.
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In addition there are certain subscales to further confirm that a problem exists. The following patterns emerged in your answers: A profile consistent with women who struggle with sexually compulsive behavior The SAST measures key characteristics of addiction. The following dimensions of an addictive disorder appeared in your answers: Preoccupation: obsessive thinking about sexual behavior, opportunities, and fantasies Relationship disturbance: sexual behavior has created significant relationship problems Affect disturbance: significant depression, despair, or anxiety over sexual behavior We hope this process has been helpful to you. Please remember that the best way to address concerns over any problematic sexual behavior is to discuss them with a trained Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). Perverted mind
MIND score: PERVERTED |
Table of Contents - to come...
I will break down the topic as follows:
If you have a story you would like me to tell (names changed to protect the not-so-innocent), let me know.
If you suddenly remember something you would like me to overlook, let me know.
- Who I am, and where I get off (haha) writing this in the first place
- A few words on virgins
- The first encounter
- Aperitifs
- Foreplay
- Oral: Cunnilingus and Fellatio
- Intercourse
- Orgasm
- Aftercourse
- Kinks:
If there is anything you think I should include, but somehow overlooked, please let me know.
- Anal (male and female)
- Biting and other animalistic behaviors
- Blindfolds
- Bondage
- Corseting
- Domination
- Foot Worship
- German Dirty - the more interesting kinks
- Ménage à trois - and four and five....
- Submission
If you have a story you would like me to tell (names changed to protect the not-so-innocent), let me know.
If you suddenly remember something you would like me to overlook, let me know.
And so it begins...
I have been blogging about sex on MySpace for about a year now. I would like to hear from the rest of the universe and not just my "Friends List" - who probably feel obligated.
I think that the topic is broad enough for me to comment on the many and varied parts with a fair amount of detail and depth.
And I want to hear from you. Make comments on the topics, your likes and dislikes, turn-ons and gross-outs. And dammit, be honest.
Also, please note that I will being drawing from personal experiences; if you would like me to ... overlook anything specific, please mail me. I don't want to make any more enemies... And, of course, I will be protecting the names of the innocent (or not so...) and give everyone pseudonyms.
I think that the topic is broad enough for me to comment on the many and varied parts with a fair amount of detail and depth.
And I want to hear from you. Make comments on the topics, your likes and dislikes, turn-ons and gross-outs. And dammit, be honest.
Also, please note that I will being drawing from personal experiences; if you would like me to ... overlook anything specific, please mail me. I don't want to make any more enemies... And, of course, I will be protecting the names of the innocent (or not so...) and give everyone pseudonyms.
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