Find of the Day

Every now and again I come across something that I feel I should share.

Here is a blog from a man who shares the same interest is blogs as I do:

http://www.punarama.co.uk/?p=75

Click the link to the BBC - he's right: it's funny and sad.

So.... What would you do? What have you done? What have others done to let you know that you are violating the noise ordinance?

A Few Words on Virgins

I'm not sure what the big deal is about virgins. We all were at some point, and let's face it: your first time was probably just as awkward and clumsy as mine. I was smart enough to do it with a fellow virgin, thereby reducing the embarrassment of screwing up. At least he had no idea what he was doing either.

Since my first virgin, I did tread into those waters a few more times. I had a blind optimism that virgins are easier to train. And I suppose they are, but they only know what feels good for the two of you. There is no, "Wow, what was that?" in their repertoire. It's all guess work. A lot can be gleaned from serious make-out sessions, but god-forbid they be fluent in modern American porn...

Virgins are, for most sexually experienced people, sacred territory. Sex is powerful. It is as close to another human being as you can be without giving birth to them. People tend (not always, but often enough) to become terribly attached to the person they lost their virginity. Either that or they become terribly attached to the act itself. I have been witness to some very sweet girls going the slut route after they lost their cherries.

On the whole, my philosophy on virgins is that they practice on each other. Why anyone, Muslim or otherwise, would want 72 virgins is beyond me. Totally inept in their own bodies, no idea how to please themselves, let alone another person, and terrified of making a wrong move.

Please, someone, tell me I am wrong and narrow-minded. Tell me that you have had amazing sex with someone who'd never done IT before. I haven't. I have had sweet, gentle, timid, loving sex with virgins. They are always willing learners, but after that first time, they are no longer virgins.

Besides, they always make me feel like a criminal - even when they do give it up freely.

A brief note on sexuality

I mentioned in a previous post that I am bi.
Well, I found a lovely little Klein Scale Test so you can try it out yourself.

Kinsey just created the scale, he never designed a test. Klein created the test, and made it multi-dimensional. It gauges your past, present, and ideal on scales of 1 through 7.

Just for the record, I scored a 3.4: "You are bisexual with heterosexual tendencies."

Still aiming for a perfect 4.0...

The SA Test

I would like to comment on the result of my Sexual Addiction test.

A few of my friends have let me know their scores. Needless to say, I have a problem. My own partner scored a 3.

I think about sex all the time. I want sex when I'm not having it. I think about it while I am having it. I think about how to help other people have fabulous sex, like I'm having. I would like very much to own my own adult toy store some day. And I write this blog... Yeah, I think I'm obsessed.

Who I am and where I get off (haha)

Unabashedly me - not terribly detailed, but if you like a little mystique, just trust that I speak from experience and go no further. If you know me long enough, this stuff is not going to surprise you; but it is a bit much for one sitting. Not for the squeamish.


I am a sub.

I like being naked, preferably in the company of another naked person. There are nude photos of me out in the universe; if you know where they are I'd love to see them.

I am bi. I have had 26 male partners and 5 female partners. I no longer date women because they are crazy, but I still love looking.

I have been raped twice - once by an acquaintance and once by an ex-boyfriend. I was also felt up by a relatives second husband once (the creepiest experience of the three).

I have been accused of "serial monogamy, but lousy at it".

I am currently using an IUD for birth control, but have used The Pill and condoms.

I love reading smut and looking at "dirty" pictures. I'm reading the Marquis de Sade's 120 Days of Sodom right now and will have to reread The Story of O after having just seen the worst rendition of it imaginable. Watching porn is great fun, but listening to it while blindfolded is rapture. I prefer hentai over the real stuff, but I guess I have a thing for tentacles and squealing women.

I love corsets and my collar; I would wear them all the time, but what would my daughters playgroup say? I prefer my flogger to my cane.

I have been told I give great head and one woman claimed that I gave her her first orgasm with my tongue.

I am multi-orgasmic. My first was self-induced, as most are; but my first with a partner was also my first foray into anal. I have been a huge fan ever since.

Toys are fun. I seem to collect them.

I prefer uncut penises (I seem to be in the minority on that count).

I am bald down there. I will not shave as it is too high maintenance and I have a life. I have been considering waxing, but I use Magic Shave right now.

I had a vertical clitoral hood piercing, but found it too cumbersome (not something you want rubbing on your jeans). I may do it again at some point, but not in the foreseeable future.

I fantasize about watching gay men and eventually growing a penis for the sheer novelty of the thing. I really want to know what it's like from a first hand perspective. I think it would make me a much more skilled lover if I knew really knew what I was doing.

I could probably have vanilla sex for the rest of my life - but what fun would that be?

Post Scripts:

You have just completed the Sexual Addiction Screening Test or SAST (version 3.1). This assessment tool has been used since 1983 to help determine if sex addiction is a problem. This version of the SAST is new. It was updated to reflect changes in sexual behavior since the 1980's and to be of assistance whatever your gender or sexual orientation might be. The database on which the assessment is made is composed of thousands of clinical patients, on-line assessments (such as this one), and non-clinical populations. Please remember that this is a new version so scoring may be adjusted with more research. It also is a simple screening tool which helps you sort out whether you have a problem or not. If you do have a concern, it is very important to see a trained therapist who understands sex addiction. For help in selecting a therapist or to contact a trained therapist in your area use the Find A Therapist search form to the left.

We have compared your answers with people who have been diagnosed with sex addiction. Your answers HAVE MET a score on basis of six the criteria that indicate sex addiction is present. To help you understand, the graphic below plots your score in relation to the scores of others.

In addition there are certain subscales to further confirm that a problem exists. The following patterns emerged in your answers: A profile consistent with women who struggle with sexually compulsive behavior The SAST measures key characteristics of addiction. The following dimensions of an addictive disorder appeared in your answers: Preoccupation: obsessive thinking about sexual behavior, opportunities, and fantasies Relationship disturbance: sexual behavior has created significant relationship problems Affect disturbance: significant depression, despair, or anxiety over sexual behavior We hope this process has been helpful to you. Please remember that the best way to address concerns over any problematic sexual behavior is to discuss them with a trained Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). The Sexual Mind Test: Perverted mind ([ Sex mind: 83% Selfishness: 36% ]) MIND score: PERVERTED You're a bit lost, perhaps you've been too far, perhaps you've tried too much. You might be blas? or want always more, you know a lot about sex but it's not always for the best. You don't know where your next step will lead you, even further at the risk of ultimately regretting it or on the contrary to try to use your experience to become wiser. SELF score: you & me (no sign) This is the average result, by far the most common. If we're not too wrong, this means you are fully aware sex is not a one-sided activity and though you are looking for your own satisfaction, you never forget to please your partner. The lower your score, the more you care about your partner's pleasure, the higher, the more important your own pleasure. The Sexual Mind Test